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The idea was that if you sat down with a perfect stranger and exchanged these 36 questions, you would have shared enough intimate information with them to create a feeling of closeness in just one conversation. The NYT article actually pulled the questions from a study led by Dr. We wanted to test the study but with a 21st century twist: can people fall in love through text message? After all, most dating services involve a period of text communication between matched partners before they meet in person. Would the same study work if conducted entirely through text communication, without any physical or verbal cues?
We assembled a group of 32 participants ranging from years of age.
We sent them a preliminary questionnaire asking for their name, age, gender, sexual orientation, religion, and profession, as well as a of attitudinal questions like whether or not they drink or smoke, their level of spontaneity, etc. Once we had gathered all of their responses, we did our best to match the participants with a partner with whom they shared similar attitudes and values.
None of the participants had any idea who they had been paired up with. We then sent the participants an instructing them to come to our office on a Wednesday evening for around two hours to participate in the study. When the participants arrived, we pointed them to a boardroom where the WiFi connection information and refreshments were set up. We then instructed them to take a seat at an empty work station and refrain from talking to the other participants.
The participants then logged into the Slack s we set up for them and entered their ased channel where they would communicate in private with their partner. We gave the participants the following instructions adapted from the instructions provided in the original study :.
We have matched you, based on the questionnaire you completed prior to arriving here, with someone we think will like you and whom you will like. The purpose of this exercise is to form a sense of intimacy between you and your partner at an accelerated pace. Once the conversation period begins you may exchange names with your partner. Over 45 minutes, you and the person we have paired you with will talk about a series of particular topics deed to help you get close.
Your conversation will be conducted entirely through text chat, with no physical interaction. Please refrain from looking around at other participants to figure out who your partner is—we want to keep it anonymous until the end of the conversation period.
At the end of the conversation period, you will have the option of exchanging contact information with your partner over text chat.
After that, you will be given 10 minutes to individually complete a post-conversation questionnaire reflecting on your experience. If you would like a drink refill or more food, please put raise your hand and we can get it for you, so as not to alert your partner of who you are. We set the timer for the first 15 minutes and the room immediately filled with the sound of fingers clacking on keyboards. As the participants chatted, we looked around at their faces: many of them with brows furrowed in concentration and many of them smiling. During a bathroom break in the middle of the study, some of the participants complained that 15 minutes was not enough time to respond to the questions in as much detail as they would like.
Since it was taking people considerably longer to type out their responses than if they were to exchange them verbally, we decided to provide participants an extra 10 minutes to complete the third and final set of questions. Once the conversation period was over and they had completed their post-conversation questionnaires, participants had the opportunity to seek out their partners in the room. Some people made a beeline for the door, clearly not excited to meet their partners.
But many of the participants did find their partners. One couple even left together to get a drink and continue their conversation, this time with the nuance of physical cues. Did anyone fall truly, madly, deeply in love after their 55 minute conversation?
In the original study conducted by Dr. So it would appear that the lack of physical cues didin fact, prevent participants from feeling very close to one another. Multiple participants also commented in their questionnaires that the 15 minute time limits drastically restrained their conversations.
What is surprising is that there is no mention of the time limit being a particular hindrance to the participants in the original study. One woman speculated that she probably would not have felt so pressured by the time limit if she had chatted with her partner in person because their facial cues would have made up for short or incomplete answers. She found herself worrying over whether her partner found her answers too short or her transitions between topics too abrupt or rude.
We sent out a questionnaire to the participants one week later to see if anyone had followed up with their partners after the study 27 people got back to us. We asked them if they had talked to their partner since the day of the study, if they had done something with them in person, and if they planned on maintaining communication with them moving forward. For some, it was simply a matter of not feeling enough attraction in person to pursue their partner. Most participants said that they would consider using the questions again but in person, or that they would consider pulling some of the questions and using them as ice breakers, rather than going through the entire set of 36 questions.
Only seven participants said that yes, they would use the 36 questions over text again. When we followed up with one of the participants, she had this to say:. If anything, at least the whole experience was weird enough to bring a few perfect strangers closer together. So our show that text-only conversation actually acts as a barrier when attempting to reach accelerated closeness, despite making it easier for more reserved people to discuss personal topics. Multiple participants noted in their post-conversation questionnaires that physical attraction is an important aspect of their romantic relationships.
If we had asked participants to even just show a photo of themselves to their partner, the conversations and responses would probably have been different. W hile online dating services are an effective way for people to get in touch with potential matches, in order for relationships to progress to something more, most people still require face-to-face interaction. That being said, I am looking for someone to text told me that they appreciate the sort of screening process of chatting online before deciding to meet someone in person. After the study, one man told me that his longest lasting relationships in the past involved a longer period of texting before they actually met in person.
Across the board, studies show that more and more couples are meeting online each year. T his is compared to a Match. One factor remains the same, though: when looking for love, people generally seem to regard online dating as a gateway to in-person interaction. Toggle. If there was a way to hack love, would you try it?
So we matched people up entirely based on personality.I am looking for someone to text
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