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Try out PMC Labs and tell us what you think. Learn More. Narrative provides a window to experience in a way that is different from traditional research methods. The narratives were obtained in interviews with eight recently remarried women between the ages of sixty-five and eighty. A two-stage analysis addresses, first, the narrative content—the phenomenology of remarriage for these older women. The second stage focuses on process, analyzing how cultural-level narratives are drawn upon in the creation of the women's personal stories.
Based upon these analyses, we discuss the ways that a narrative approach can inform our understanding of later life relationships, and we comment on the potential of narratives such as these to rewrite a script for older women's relationships. Intimate relationships in later life can take many forms and involve issues of both continuity and change.
What we know about later life marriages tends to represent those experiences of long-term marriage. Therefore, there is a gap in our knowledge of how older adults make decisions about remarriage, how they experience the transition from widowed or divorced to married, and in what ways this new relationship affects their identity. The literature on remarriage characteristically focuses on younger adulthood and the blending of younger families. While most remarriage takes place earlier in the life course, issues such as increasing life expectancy, rates of divorce and spousal bereavement, and the initiation of new relationships in later life makes the examination of the formation of these relationships a salient issue for study.
This experience, in part, involves individual women and their journeys, but it also involves other people in their lives e. Partnerships forged in later life continue to be, for the most part, marginalized by society. Societal attitudes about older adults and aging in general—what we here refer to as the master narrative—have trivialized, or discounted, these relationships in a variety of ways.
The intersection of ageism and sexism has a profound influence on the context in which new relationships are formed in later life. However, in recent years an alternative view has received growing attention, one founded on a different set of Ladies seeking sex Coupland Texas and assumptions about aging. In telling their personal stories, people draw upon the available cultural narratives to construct their identities by selecting among these narratives, interpreting them, and sometimes revising them.
This paper concerns the ways in which older women do this as they narrate the development of a new relationship leading to remarriage. As an introduction to our study, we describe and document cultural-level narratives regarding women's later life relationships. We then turn to the assumptions that frame this work and our specific goals.
A consideration of related literature is reserved for the discussion, following presentation of the narrative analyses. The predominant cultural narrative about intimate relationships in later life is grounded in a broader narrative of aging and discrimination, referred to as ageism Butler, In this narrative, attributions are made simply on the basis of age, for example, that because an individual is elderly he or she will be less physically and cognitively competent than a younger person Butler, ; Nelson, Research has examined and documented patterns of stereotypes of aging in television, advertising, and popular film that perpetuate double standards between men and women and the double jeopardy facing older women.
Opportunities for partnering in later life are diminished by ageist attitudes Coupland,and when it does occur, it is assumed to be for reasons of companionship, or perhaps financial support. The romantic narrative, so pervasive in stories of younger love, is less evident in narratives about finding love in later life. For women, dismissive views toward later life relationships are exacerbated by sexism. Views of older women in relationships are bounded by gender stereotypes and expectations.
Hurd Clarke and Griffin found that women participate in beauty work as a response to ageism and do so because of social messages around youthfulness and attractiveness, femininity, and sexual desirability. A master narrative is, by definition, one that is internalized by everyone in a society.
However, when the master narrative does not fit people's experiences, they can draw upon or create an alternative narrative, one that counters in some fashion the master narrative. One alternative to the master narrative regarding women's later life relationships has gained visibility in recent years.
Simpson explores later life marriage through interviews, history, and literature, emphasizing the changing attitudes toward intimacy, and also the impediments to remarriage. Recently, popular books and film have become more explicit about portraying and celebrating older women's sexuality. It is through narrative that people define themselves in relation to their world, make connections between past, present, and future, and in general ascribe meaning to their lives. Narrative is the means by which people at times do developmental work and construct identity transformations; it also is the means by which they maintain stability.
Our second assumption is that narratives reflect their cultural contexts. People's understandings about the world—assumptions about how things work, what's possible, and how to construe a life—come from this context in the form of a range of narrative practices e. Yet even within the same societal niche, these understandings are not quite the same for any two individuals.
In constructing their narratives, people actively select from cultural messages and construct personal meanings based on these messages Valsiner, In this study we pose two questions about women's narratives of remarriage in later life. The first concerns narrative content—the phenomenology of remarriage. This is a question about the meanings of remarriage, and more generally, relationship formation, for older women. While there are a of studies concerning the correlates of later life relationship formation, few have assessed the meanings of these relationships for older adults.
The second question addresses narrative process. It is a question of how the cultural is appropriated, and transformed, by the individuals in constructing their identity narratives.
They also, by telling their stories, feed back to the cultural, as these stories, and others like them, serve to confirm or revise the master narrative. Study participants were recruited primarily through word of mouth and flyers distributed by friends, family, and colleagues and posted at a retirement community in Central Texas. Selection criteria included women between the ages of 65 and 80who had dated in later life. Following a phone call or from potential participants, the first author contacted the woman and explained the project and asked her if she would be willing to discuss her relationships and sexual experiences and Ladies seeking sex Coupland Texas about how she thinks and feels about these topics.
She was told the interview would take about one and a half to two hours, would be recorded, and that only the first author would have access to those recordings and her identity. Then, a follow-up letter was sent to each participant prior to the interview, providing a preliminary interview schedule, asking that the woman give thought to the topics ahead of time. The volunteers for this study were eight white, middle-class, heterosexual women who had remarried in later life, and ranged in age from 64 to Some additional characteristics of the participants, who are referred to by ased names include the following: Two had experienced divorce Martha and Karenand one of these two women Karenas well as the other six, were widows two were widowed twice.
Three are in their third marriages Sara, Sally, and Karenand five are married for the second time. They were single prior to their present marriages from six months to 17 years. The amount of time of dating and courtship for their current marriages ranged from less than a month to around eight months. Carol and Anne knew their current husbands from church; Sally knew her husband through work, but they had not seen each other in several years; Virginia married a man she met through her husband; Mary married a man she and her husband had been friends with for many years; and three married men they met either through a community function Martha, square dancingthrough family Sara ; or via a random encounter at the grocery store Karen.
At the time of the interview, the length of current marriage ranged from six weeks to five years. The data for this study came from semi-structured interviews conducted by the first author. The interviews were conducted in a conversational, flexible manner allowing the respondent the opportunity to introduce topics of interest to her and to provide an insider's perspective. The open-ended interview addressed the following general topic areas: a dating experiences in mid and later life; b the role of sex in relationships; c decision-making about relationships, including sexual decision-making and safer sex practices; d aging and sexuality; e comparison of these experiences with earlier points in time; and f the experience of remarriage.
Interviews were conducted in either the participant's home or a place of their choosing. Prior to the beginning of the interview, respondents completed consent forms. Respondents participated on a volunteer basis and were not reimbursed for their time. The analyses presented here address our two research questions.
We first present the of the phenomenological analysis, documenting themes with Ladies seeking sex Coupland Texas examples from the narratives. We then use these themes in analyzing the ways in which cultural narratives come into play in constructing personal stories about remarriage. This approach was chosen because of the attention it gives to individual meanings while also drawing tentative conclusions across interviews, thus tapping more broadly into the phenomena of study.
The procedures of IPA entail many successive steps in abstracting themes from specific content, first for each individual, and then across individuals. The analysis was conducted by the first author, but all interviews were read and discussed by the first two authors, and the analysis emerged and was modified through these discussions. We present here the themes at the most abstract level of this analysis—the primary themes that organized narratives of later life remarriage Table 1. We note below instances where there are ificant variations among the narratives with regard to these themes, but for the most part, this discussion emphasizes meanings that characterized the majority of the narratives.
While we find these to be important in our understanding of women's intimate relationships in later life, specifically in the area of the formation of remarriage, the authors want to caution against generalizing these findings to all women in later life. The women were informed of the content prior to the interviews, and it is possible that women who did not want to talk about their marriage or sexuality or whose remarriages did not include a sexual component chose not to participate in this study. Half of the women interviewed had dated prior to the man they married, and half had not.
Martha, Carol, Mary, and Karen had dated in varying amounts and enjoyed it to varying degrees. For Carol, it was an opportunity to spend time with a man and to be appreciated as a person again, instead of as a mother or widow. For the most part, these women did not date with the intention of finding a marriage partner, at least not initially. Carol and Martha said they had no interest in remarrying; they enjoyed the company and conversation of men. For Mary and Karen, the desire to remarry was not initially their reason behind dating, but after a while, both wished to find someone with whom they could again share their lives.
For some of the women, dating was thought of with wariness, and for Sara, Anne, Sally, and Virginia, those fears had in part motivated them to avoid it altogether. Negative attitudes were based on stories from friends, memories of dating in adolescence, and fears founded in the unknown. Dating was associated with the potential for being taken advantage of financially, being pressured for sex, having to make conversation, and spending time with men whose interests they did not share.
I mean, I had a lot of friends, very active, very busy, and enjoyed my life. I mean, so I wasn't gonna go out and look for something else. They did not see themselves as aggressive, and it was important to their identities to remain in the role of pursued, not pursuer. Karen, Mary, and Virginia expressed a desire to marry again. Sara said she thought about it on occasion, but did not involve herself in any activities to meet someone. Sally, Anne, Carol, and Martha had no interest in remarrying.
And yet each of them chose marriage again. Further, the amount of time of courtship, or dating, prior to their current marriages ranged from less than a month to around eight months Sara, less than a month; Sally, two months; Mary, three months; Virginia and Karen, six months; Martha, seven months; Carol and Anne, about eight months. Given that five of the eight women said that they had ly had little or no interest in remarriage, the speed at which it occurred after meeting their future husband was one of the most intriguing aspects of these stories.
Also intriguing are their explanations. You're just getting swept away in a whirlwind, and this really doesn't make sense. You need to sit down and really logically think about this…And, uh, everything seemed right. For Virginia, who wanted to marry again, the decision was made in a two-week period after becoming re-acquainted with a friend of her first husband. I just felt like it was too soon…But, before the end of that week, well, we had done a lot of praying and a lot of consultation with friends, and he had done that also.
We both did, and so on that next Thursday, we decided we would meet again on Saturday at the same place, and we did, and he proposed and I accepted, and then we married in July. And a blessing from him. For Carol, the decision to marry her second husband centered around a five-second window of time wherein she said she could decide either to love this man or walk away. Overall, the brief time from first meeting or re-acquaintance to marriage, although noteworthy to us, was not narrated as remarkable by the women, nor was it spontaneously explained by most people.
For several of the women, sex outside of marriage was not an option, and one said explicitly that this was a factor in the quick marriage. Most women, though, when questioned about the time frame, offered only vague explanations—it just seemed right, or it was God's will.
Women highlighted three main features of their current relationships, sometimes by way of contrast with what they felt they had missed in their past relationships. These features were romance, sexuality, and companionship. The narratives were, among other things, unabashed love stories. There's that feeling of total and complete contentment, of happiness, of, uh, for lack of a better word, comfort. You know? Martha was surprised to find herself a romantic person at this point in her life, a description she never would have used for herself in the past. She described her husband as demonstrative in that he puts his arm around her and holds her hand.
They leave little love notes and glass hearts around the house for the other to find. For Sara, Ladies seeking sex Coupland Texas well, this relationship brought with it a romance she had never before experienced. She talked with candor about not loving her first two husbands, and being okay with that at the time. Now she feels she has found the love of her life. Women registered surprise in an unanticipated reawakening of sexuality. Most believed that sex belonged only within marriage and as they did not expect to marry again, they did not believe that their futures included sex.
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